Active Listening

 Have you ever been perplexed or upset because someone dosent understand your point of view or the level at which you are speaking? Do you find it hard to comprehend that someone dosent understand the littlest things you expect them to know? We'll I've brought a simpler concept to help you realize what going on If you fall under this phenomenon then congratulations..you have been cursed with knowledge! The curse of knowledge , illustrated by Elizabeth Newton In 1990, a Stanford University graduate student in psychology , summaries the A cognitive bias which is a systematic pattern of deviation from rationality, which occurs due to the way our cognitive system works.  Accordingly, cognitive biases cause us to be irrational in the way we search for, evaluate, interpret, judge, use, and remember information, as well as in the way we make decisions. In simpler words, When under the Curse of Knowledge, we assume people know more about a topic than they actually do.  We are esp...

  Do you find it hard to make out plans for your day or even accomplish it? Do you  determine your day or does it determines you? Not to worry, I've put put together a few helpful tips to help you make the best of your day. Before we begin, do well to understand that these tips are flexible and don't necessarily have to be followed in order. Just make sure to have fun with whatever you set out to do.   Also this might not work for everyone so you should try to find or adjust this to what would help you be more productive. Why do we most times have our days determine us?  I mean it's okay to take few chilling days off but we all, most times have issues with being accountable for our day.   So I'll teach you a simple trick The reason why we relax so much is because we feel we have twenty-four hours. And that looks regular, normal and not exciting..I bet most of us don't even time some crucial activities we do.  We literally spend hours on social med...

  How many times have you given excuses for achieving a goal? Hello Activers, welcome back to an enlightening forum where we learn, unlearn and grow in self development. Today we're gonna be talking about reasons why we give up on dreams. Its so common that we have a lot of negative thoughts and fewer positive aspirations. If there's one thing I've realized in life it is, Don't be afraid of taking that step Be even more afraid of regret! Cause its the most horrible feeling in life. Having a chance to do something great but being a coward and forfeiting the mission. I just want to give a little motivation to start your day. Make that choice to do something great. I promise you , it wont always be fun on the journey. When I wanted to write out this powerful message to you , I did felt reluctant, stressed but I remembered one thing, THE GOAL ! It all starts with a WHY ? Every great accomplishment has a story behind it.  What is your WHY behind your idea? What change or c...

  We all have a beginning. That time when we made that decision, taking that first step to achieving our desires. Just like I did. I am Ololade, a freelance content and ghostwriter, blogger, podcaster, poet and language enthusiast. Im currently a final year student of a diploma Course in orthopedics, "Prosthetics and Orthotics''. I love ancient history and archeological discoveries, I speak Spanish, English , Korean, a little bit of Chinese, German and Ukrainian. I am an entrepreneur , achiever , love enthusiast (I believe in love and self appreciation ). I love music and play a bit of the violin and piano. I'm an inventor and my view of the world is amazingly unique. I am an advocate of self development and I currently run an "Active Listening Community '' where I enlighten people on several ranges of topics and create an environment where people can share ideas, problems and get help without being judged. We have a blog and a newsletter received through ...

 Isn't it exciting having to anticipate that special someone? That dreamy character, someone you've waited for so long? That person you feel passionate about or whom you gonna share that lollipop with?😍 Well let me introduce you to the word of ''WRITTINGS AND POSSIBILITIES'' where your feelings can be expressed in a more natural and exciting way! Have you ever written a LETTER before? I'm sure a lot of us have written something sketchy be it at school writing, essays or love letters we snuck under our crushes textbooks😉. Today, we are gonna learn a different form of writing which doesn't involve those boring letter rules and format. The fun part about this writing is that it helps you connect with yourself personally, relieve stress and express your emotions without caution👍. Or as I  like to call it "SAFE WRITING "😉 We are going to be writing a letter to'' A SPECIAL PERSON''. It could be "Your Future Self'' or ...

 Have you ever had that awesome idea that is world changing, then you begin to implement it but after a while, you get tired and stop pursuing? Not to worry because we all struggle with being consistent from time to time. It's hard to be consistent  because we tend to focus on the outcome more than the process . Put another way, we're more drawn to the positive feelings of outcomes rather than the struggle of the journey. Most of us quit during the struggle before we can experience the rewards of staying the course. YOU ARE FOCUSED MORE ON THE OUTCOME THAN THE PROCESS When we initially visualize an idea, there is this rush of enthusiasm and will to begin. But few months in, we begin to face difficulties that we never expected to come across. The journey becomes tiring and complex. This makes majority of turn back without understanding that we have to face some challenges to move forward in life. THE BIG QUESTION                   ...

  Hello Activers, T oday we are going to be focusing on Mental health. This is a topic a lot of us have heard about but haven't  fully taken into consideration. M ental fitness can be defined as having and maintaining a state of well-being and cultivating awareness of how we think, behave and feel.                                                                                                                                   Just as physical fitness provides us with an increased ability to respond to life in all its richness, mental fitness helps in the same way. It provides us more space to choose how to respond to a situation, whether that situation ...