CHANGE IN RESPECT TO PARENTING

 Hello everyone 

So today we're going to be talking about a topic which I don't usually speak about. we'll be focusing on change in respect to parenting.

I think this is a topic that most of us don't like to talk about or engage in because most of us are in the constant pursuit of making money.

So today I just want us to be reminded of the fact that they are more priorities to life that also needs attention.

Now let's dive into the topic

What does change means to you?

we all have our definitions of change and what it has done to us, what experiences we might have had that has made us to whom we have become.

Today will be focusing on change in respect to parenting.

I'll try to be as brief as possible because I only know as much about this topic and would love to share my and knowledge with us.

I believe change is the ability to see beyond your present self. It is an innate feeling of deciding to be a better version of yourself .

We have all changed in some ways in our lives even in ways that we never expect to, be it positive or negative in our daily lives, we are constantly evolving. Every decision that we make has an impact in our growth and success story.

What is your definition of change?

The floor is open for conversations..

Ok now I would like to address some parental methods of upbringing. I know we all understand the biblical verse which says" spare the rod and spoil the child' but I think this Bible verse has really been misinterpreted for a long time now.

 I would like to say I do not as much understanding of parenthood but based on my research and experiences it is quite unfortunate that most parents don't take time to learn about what they are really getting into before having children.

I would like to argue that a lot of parents need to go for counseling because their interpretation of training is totally unrealistic and judging.

I've seen cases of youths changing into something they are not just because of parenthood. So today I would like to state out a few facts that I think we might all agree with in regards to parenting for a change.

I believe now is the time for us to begin to learn about the things we'd  need in the future because we obviously do not want to make the same mistakes that our parents  made. 

Before we proceed I would like us to know that some people will never change regardless of how many times try to make them understand.

this also goes for parents because some of them have their own opinions about how they expect things to be and how life should making it very difficult to turn their minds around.

You can never change a person, you can only try your best to make them see The brighter side of things.

This also goes out to all of us. you can either choose to believe what I say or formulate your own opinions we are all entitled to our beliefs.

We may proceed.

* For the love of life, stop unleashing pain based on your lack of vulnerability!

Most parents try to enforce correction with unimaginable hurting. The fact is if you keep on doing this it clearly explains your inability to contain your emotions .

Not everyone is lucky enough to have parents who are understanding and can correct in a reasonable way.

My parents always believed that you were mature enough to be responsible for your actions so whenever you went wrong obviously you'll be punished but you would at least know why you are being punished.

some parents punish for the slightest offence which is very unrealistic and clearly exhibits incompetency in parenting.

what is the probability that your child will even make a difference by using them as an anger coping mechanism?

*It is not a shame to read about parenting. There's a reason why we have seminars and experts in this field.

Firstly you cannot know  all the experience that your kids go through  and they cannot tell you unless you have some degree of communication with them.

Unfortunately  in this part of the world, we do not really have a very close relationship with our parents thus, having to find answers to many questions on our own . 

Taking a little extra time to learn about  this would go a long way. 

Think of it as getting better at a job that you already have some knowledge of.

Because the slightest negligence can lead to a messed up generation... we're living in it.

* Cultivate the habit of acknowledgement!

Present and Future Parents, y'all so used to demanding respect which is important but at least find it in your heart to be openly expressive to acknowledging your child's growth and success. 

It's so bad that most parents don't believe in their youths dreams unless it becomes a reality.

Just because you found it hard in your upbringing dosen't mean your child should.

There's a reason why they're your responsibility.

* Space and Support

Your child is your responsibility! Not your object!

As loving as you can be, give your child some space to grow okay?..we all learn from mistakes .

Dont be a raven! Be an eagle to support  during hard times,

 you're not the only one with issues ... youths face alot these days.

Also try to respect their boundaries sometimes and trust their judgement cause someday they'll also have to protect others of their own.

We have come to the end of today's talk. I know I have been enlightened. 

Have you?

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